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Atalya's Anxiety

Hi, I’m Tal (short for Atalya), the newest member of FRAHM.

I’m Bath born & raised. I started a few weeks ago as FRAHM’s first full time member of staff - helping Nick in marketing…. Which means Nick lets me mess around with his beloved piccies and writing and stuff. That’s a big deal for him, he’s so exacting about everything. FRAHM is his baby, it’s hard for him to let go. But he is, phew. A bit.

So, behold, a blog that isn’t written by His Royal Husseyness.

Besides introducing myself, I wanted to use this space to openly talk about the subject of change and my struggle with it as an anxiety sufferer - especially this big move - changing jobs. Whether you deal with it well or not, change is something everyone experiences and everyone can relate to, one way or another. I find it hard.

Prior to FRAHM, I worked long, gruelling hours in the hospitality sector. So when I got offered the job, apart from this using my brain & abilities far better, it was a no-brainer. Who wants to work 6 days in a row, never have weekends off and leave work at 11.30pm? Not me. Noooo.

Despite beaming on the outside at being given this amazing opportunity, this triggered immense feelings of anxiety which go beyond plain old nervousness. From my experience as a long term anxiety sufferer, change evokes fear of failure and a lot of negative self-talk. 

I felt grateful and excited at the opportunity to kick-start my career I really believe in, but also sick to my stomach with dread that I wouldn’t be good enough.

Unfortunately a big part of suffering from anxiety is the comfort that feeling safe provides, which can make change overwhelming. The danger is you run from the things that are good for you. I felt very safe in my not-great old job, despite it being far from a long-term option, purely because I’d been doing it for ages. Comfort in the known.

Whilst there’s no remedy or quick fix, I tried to reframe my thoughts: ‘hang on a minute, if they didn’t think I had the potential they wouldn’t have hired me’ and ‘I haven’t even given myself a chance yet - I haven’t even started!’. I’ve had cognitive behavioural therapy to combat this. CBT has helped lots.

Progress is impossible without change and the only thing in life that’s constant is things are always changing. I try not to let fear of change trap you into a life that you don’t want, because life’s too short. You are, as the ads say *adopts new-age West Coast American accent* worth it.

For me, change is tough, and, so far, beautiful!

Take care & see you around,

Tal.

4 Responses

Greg Ward

Greg Ward

May 25, 2021

Agree, beautifully written Tal. Although a relative new Frahm devotee the ethos of the the company as caring and supportive is self evident. The quality and candour of your article is admirable. Nick and EmmaLou have found a star. Keep shining.
Best Wishes,
Greg

Richard Baker

Richard Baker

May 24, 2021

I can identify with that Tal. Some years back I took the plunge and went fully freelance, partly due to family commitments… The stress of leaving a job with a monthly salary for the great unknown of freelance work gave me a raging headache that lasted six whole miserable weeks. I still get stressed but I’ve learned to manage it. I have exchanged a few emails with Nick in the past and I can tell that your boss is a thoroughly decent chap, so, with you now not working silly hours, you should be fine! All the best to you. :)

David Brockbank

David Brockbank

May 24, 2021

Well done Tal, big tick. Move over Nick. You’ve got this Tal, look forward to more. Keep Nick on his toes, I’m sure he’s on yours. Be tough, be beautiful.
All the best
David

George Newell

George Newell

May 22, 2021

Brilliantly written, always helps to talk.
Good luck in your new job, all the best George 👍

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